Hi guys I hope everyone is doing good. I wrote a post some time ago about my top 5 dating tips, and judging by the view count I could tell a lot of people took interest to it. So I've decided to expand on that post and give you some more pointers on what learning over the years has made me believe can get you a second date. Now guys a lot of the time when I catch up with my female friends they always have some dreadful experience regarding a first date that they always share. I sit there and listen carefully and 90% of the times it does seem as though we as men are continuously making the same mistakes. Mistakes in which I've made in the past thinking that's the way to go forward
1. Punctuality - A woman likes to know that you can be on time even if she isn't. If it is a first date try and get to her a bit early to show her that your keen but don't arrive so early that she's still in her towel because she will make you wait In the car whilst she calls her girls and says "he's like an hour early" then you go from keen and ahead of time to early and in some women's minds thirsty. I say arriving 5-10 minutes ahead of schedule is perfect as she may be a person who is ready on time or she may be somebody who takes long, but either way once she speaks to her friends she will definitely bring up the your punctuality.
2. Chivalry isn't dead - Guys do not be afraid to be gentlemen! It will not make you look soft in fact it will make you seem even more appealing to her and you will come across grown. Remember to tell her how nice she looks pull out chairs and open doors. Be smooth with it Definitely try to he denzel and not Carlton. Women believe that there isn't any gentlemen left in the world and it is your job to prove them wrong
3. No sex talk - Fellas as hard as this may be for you, stay away from it even if she initiates it. Don't interrupt a lovely evening by being hungry and asking what's your favourite position, because 9/10 times it will result in you possibly not getting a call back. Some women are very open and may have this conversation with you but will surely think your a bit fast and that's never a way to go. Don't use this opportunity to start saying you do all this and lick and do this n that please relax with it. Sex talk comes later during the getting to know one another period. It can happen either before or after sex so there's no rush in finding out if she is a freak and handcuffs herself to the bed posts ... Be easy! If she initiates sex talk thenthis is a different case. To possibly increase her interest, you could attempt to swerve the question. When I say swerve I don't mean disregard but give an answer that makes her want to find out... "Would you say your good in bed" you reply with something like "if your lucky enough to find out I'm sure you won't be disappointed"
4. Don't be tight - Guys basic principal that a lot of women are letting me know is that if you cannot afford it, then why suggest it. Time and time again you take a woman out to dinner with a set price in your head and when she exceeds the budget you start sweating lol. No female wants to go halves on a first date with you please believe that a lot of women are traditional in the thinking that the man should pay so even if she does go halves with you on the bill after stabbing you and insulting you a thousand times in her mind 9/10 times you won't get a second date. Find a restaurant in your price rang that you don't mind stretching the extra bill for the problem comes from trying to go to the most expensive restaurant but your balance does not account for the fact that she might have a taste for excessive cocktails lol don't ever assume she may just want one.
5. Don't ask for petrol money - This may sound stupid to you but I assure you this is a regular thing. Men lose their minds and ask the ladies at the end of the night for petrol money. Even if a lady offers you need to swiftly let her know not to be silly and then play on that with something like "Petrol money you know, what sort of guys have you dated in the past" imagine you have a lovely evening and on the way home you stop at a petrol station fill up then stick you head in the door and stare at her lol! Just be prepared for the possibility of her not answering your phone calls
6. End of the night antics - This is probably one of the most important moves you have to play when trying to get a second date. This could determine what happens next. Now unless she pulls you in, try to avoid asking her if you can "come up" after dropping her home, you are a gentlemen not somebody in need of water lol chat to your little friend and tell him to relax. Avoid cheesy lines like "are you going to be alright By yourself, you sure you don't want me to protect you" or any jazz like that pls this isn't Love actually and them bars more time receive a "I'm alright but thank you for the offer". If she asks you to come in then this game changes and you can either go in and do bizzle or you could flip it on its head and give a response in the region of "I would love to but I have an early start tomorrow, but thank you for a lovely evening" then proceed to kiss her on the cheek and keep it moving. Risky move though, could either turn her on and she bundles you into the crib or make her call you before you call her or she could think the opposite and be offended. More time females will like the idea that you wasn't trying to get in her knickers on the first date
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